Why suicide is NEVER the answer

We have all been there, thinking suicide and how it would end all our problems in life. It’s like the magic button was given to us, to use whenever problems arise and we can’t deal with it anymore.

 

Suicide isn’t a choice, it never is.

 

Whether you have been a victim of abuse, or whether you have loans to pay. The answer to the problem is : If there is a will there is most certainly a way out.

Life is precious, and we all have our time but it isn’t now. And by ending yourself, you also close the door to every possible happy event that could have happened had we just endured it a while longer.

 

There are people who depend on us, and even if you feel that you are all alone in the world. Know that there are millions and millions of people just like you, not able to understand their gifts and their purpose in life.

So if you are thinking suicide or if you know someone who is extremely depressed. Do understand that there is always hope and grab hold of the opportunity to prove yourself and know that life is always worth living.

 

You can always come out of every situation life throws at you with a smile and some will-power. Think practically and logically on how to deal with the situation and never leave it for the last moment to solve itself.

I have known people who have been extremely miserable but have turned their lives around by sheer hard work and positivity. They feel extremely foolish to have once thought of ending it all due to the stress of a situation.

 

You can always watch uplifting movies like The Pursuit of Happyness, The Bucket List , A Beautiful Mind. Get a sense of what life is and how to find your purpose for it.

You should also consider reading biographies of many inspiring entrepreneurs , their rags to riches stories. Try to give your soul a bit of uplifting from time to time.

Try to walk a mile in their shoes and know that if they have solved life’s problems so can you.

So start a life with a lot of hope and energy. Only you can make yourself happy. Always aim to reach for the stars and not to distance yourself from them.

 

The finest things in life are within yourself, have a little self-confidence and you can turn things around in time.

 

 

 

 

 

Understanding Depression and ways to beat it

Depression at a glance

 

As humans, we are all prone to different levels of depressions from time to time. It could be work related, family stress or failure in seeing our own worth. It is quite ordinary to withdraw ourselves into a shell, to not face the judging eyes of society.

An unstable mind usually finds difficulty in accepting the positivity around us, we either underestimate ourselves or sell ourselves short and begin to feel as if everything in life is unfair. Unfortunately, the same is true, the world is mostly unfair, but that is no reason to not pull ourselves up and strive to achieve our goals.

Depression, at its core, manifests itself as a dull and helpless feeling that feeds on your energy. It can make bright days, gray and gloomy. It can make you harbor jealousy for successful people and it can completely shut down your socializing skills.

Creating a neutral space

Before we learn to beat depression, we must first learn to accept it as a part of life, this is an extremely important step due to the fact that it is a mental state and not a medical condition. We should first find solace in the fact that we are not alone, every person in their lifetime has gone through a depressive phase whether they realize it or not.

No matter the professions, even clowns and stand up comedians experience depression. Once this is established, we can now breathe easy knowing that we are extremely normal and that there is room to heal and it is always a good idea to divert your mind from the stressful situation at hand.

Remember : You can’t beat stress by fighting it.

Anger, Anxiety, and Sadness are all by-products of depression, all of which have to be vented out in the most passive ways possible or they can create an ugly situation that might just add to your overall depressive state. In the next piece, we will learn of ways to deal with depression.

 

           Overcoming Depression

Discharging depression passively is extremely healthy for our overall mental balance. Listed below are some of the ways to creating a positive environment for our mind.

 

• Seek Help – It is a good idea to talk about the subject that bothers you with someone  you can trust, whether it is a friend, family member or a professional like a psychiatrist, know that by seeking help you are in the process of removing the burden off of your shoulders and sharing it.

 

• Music – This is a personal favorite of mine, it is one of the most effective forms of dealing with stress. Spend some time listening to relaxing music or beats or even audio books. You will find yourself distracted and enter a plane of thought that puts you in a positive frame of mind as compared to plain silence.

 

• Pets – Having pets like a dog or cat, is a great way to create companionship and remove traces of solitude. Pets are always energetic and give you a reason for you to spend time with them instead of by yourself. Taking a dog for a walk/run or to a dog show are all great stress busters.

 

• Exercise and Diet – An early morning run, a session at your local gym or a class of yoga provide your mind with a healthy discharge of energy, there would be no room for negative thoughts to enter when your body is tired and fit. It also promotes socializing. Keeping yourself fit with a healthy diet will create a positive vibe and will encourage others to compliment you, in turn bringing a smile on your face.

 

• Hobbies – Having a hobby is an excellent way to ensure your mind is always creative. Examples of a good hobby would be traveling, blogging, volunteering at social platforms, watching the news and online documentaries, playing board games, bird watching, etc. Keeping yourself busy whether at work or at home ensures your mind doesn’t wander.

 

• Learn new skills – Introduce a variety of skills into your life. Be it – programming, dancing, writing, drawing, etc. Not only is this good for your mind but it will also improve your prospective skills while searching for a job and hence improve your career. As the saying goes “An idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. Have a constant thirst to learn different crafts.

 

Strive for a blissful living

It is never the end for anyone until they give up and let sorrow drown their lives. Just like various martial arts are practiced for self-defense of the body, methods as listed above that we follow, are self-defense for the mind from attacks of depression.

The worth of life isn’t calculated by the state of mind we are in, it is calculated by the purest form of acts we strive to achieve. So start a life of positivity today and know that if you choose to eliminate depression, it can never cease to exist.

Toughen the mind and the rest will follow.

 

“Depression is an uninvited guest for the mind, it is up to you to stay and cope with it or call to arms and protect your home”

 

–    Pavan Punja